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堅強的人成功的奧秘是什麽？為何他們能熬過艱苦的歲月，而有些人卻被困難壓倒呢？為何成功屬於堅強之人，而失敗的卻是另一些人？為何那些堅強的人能一飛衝天，而另一些人卻身陷困難的泥沼呢？其實答案很簡單，主要在於他們如何麵對自己的問題。的確，生活中每個人都會有各自的煩惱。一個不被困難所困擾的人生，隻能是一種幻想，就好比是沙漠中的海市蜃樓。現實就是這樣，我們必須接受。每座山都有它的最高點，每個峽穀都有它的最低點。人生的起起落落，一樣也有頂峰與低穀，不會有人一生都成功，也不會有人一直都在失敗。問題總有一天會結束。隨著時間的流逝，所有問題都會迎刃而解。或許你無法掌控時勢，但你可以選擇理性地應對。或許你無法選擇時運，但你可以選擇麵對它的方式。比如，遭遇一場嚴重的經濟挫折，究竟如何做才是積極麵對呢？酗酒、吸毒甚至自殺，采取一係列逃避方式算得上積極應對嗎？不！當然不是，那些消極的應對方式看似能緩解一時的問題，事實上反而會帶來更棘手的麻煩。鼓起勇氣去解決問題，才是積極應對的方法。人的一生中有許多看似無法解決的難題，當你能夠控製自己麵對問題時的反應，事實上你已掌控了問題對你的影響。你對問題的態度是非常重要的，起著決定性的作用，因為它可以使人變得脆弱，也可使人變得堅強。它既可使人做得更好，也可以使人痛苦，這全在於你如何麵對它。總而言之，人能夠堅強地渡過困難，往往取決於他們選擇積極應對困境的態度。難關不會無止境，隻要你永不懈怠，堅持到底。曆史告訴我們，每個問題都會有終結，沒有解決不了的問題。
What is the secret ingredient of tough people that enables them to succeed？Why do they survive the tough times when others are overcome by them？Why do they win when others lose？Why do they soar when others sink？The answer is very simple.It’s all in how they perceive their problems.Yes，every living person has problems.A problem-free life is an illusion—a mirage in the desert.Accept that fact.Every mountain has a peak.Every valley has its low point.Life has its ups and downs，its peaks and its valleys.No one is up all the time，nor are they down all the time.Problems do end.They are all resolved in time.You may not be able to control the times，but you can compose your responses.You may not have chosen your tough time，but you can choose how you will react to it.For instance，what is the positive reaction to a terrible financial setback？In this situation would it be the positive reaction to cop out and run away？Escape through alcohol，drug，or suicide？No！Such negative reactions only produce greater problems by promising a temporary“solution”to the pressing problem.The positive solution to a problem may require courage to initiate it.When you control your reaction to the seemingly uncontrollable problem of life，then in fact you do control the problem’s effect on you.Your reaction to the problem is the last word！That’s the bottom line.What will you let this problem do to you？It can make you tender or tough.It can make you better or bitter.It all depends on you.