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一個大學生曾和我說：“我不需要快樂——我隻要成功。”這是一個奇怪的思想對比。她不需要快樂——“隻要成功”。她將這兩者對立起來。對學生而言，今天的言就是明天的行。他們所說的話很具有代表性，每個人都會努力奮鬥，隻是這種努力往往不易覺察。記得上大學時，校報上有一篇文章的標題是這樣的：《為什麽我們不快樂》。這個標題表明：我們感到快樂在缺失。然而，至少我們仍在尋找。像那個追求成功的學生一樣，許多人寧願放棄快樂，這是為什麽呢？
為了確保周一的工作進度，我在周日也常常加班。這實際上是提前對未來一周的工作感到焦慮——擔心會發生意想不到的麻煩，或覺得自己在某些方麵做不好。但我通常在正常上班的日子做得很不錯。我擔心的很多事從未發生過。快樂自有其道德基礎。快樂的完整性讓我們不得不考慮自己應該做什麽樣的人。當然，一些不怎麽光彩的行為也會衍生快樂。但是，要想體驗快樂，我們就得付出更多。正是快樂，讓我們體會到事物的可貴之處。真正的快樂需要作出選擇，這些選擇可以養成習慣，從而形成性格。這是我們無法推脫的。因此，獲取真正快樂的首要一步就是減少憂慮——這個關鍵的第一步能讓我們遠離憂慮。它要求我們勇於接受毫無預想的一切，坦然麵對生活中的不完美。
A college student once told me：“I don’t need to be happy—just successful.”It’s an odd juxtaposition.She needn’t be happy—“just successful”.She places one in opposition to the other.Students are today’s expressions of tomorrow’s practices.Their words can be the visible signs of the less visible struggles encountered by us all.I have a memory from my own undergraduate years of a headline in my campus newspaper：Why Aren’t We Happy？As the headline suggests，we fell short of leading joyful lives.Yet，at least happiness was still on the agenda.What underlies the tendency of many of us，like my success-seeking student，to give up genuinely trying？I’ve often failed to enjoy Sunday because of my schedule on Monday.At bottom，it was simply anticipatory anxiety over the work of the week ahead—fear that there would be unexpected complications or that I would fail to measure up in some way.Usually，when Monday came，I did quite well.Much of what I worried about never happened.Joy has its own moral underpinning.There’s a completeness to joy that does not allow us to exclude our sense of the person we should be.Pleasure is certainly possible in less-than-honorable actions.But the experience of joy requires more；it is pleasure taken in worthy things.