[美］穆裏爾詹姆斯&[美］多蘿西瓊基瓦德/Muriel James&Dorothy Jongeward
贏家不會讓他們的生命局限在自己“理當”成為何種人的觀念中。事實上，他們順應天性行事。所以，他們不會費盡心思地裝模作樣、故做姿態、玩弄他人。他們十分清楚愛與裝愛、傻與裝傻、真才實學與故做高深之間的差別，贏家沒有必要藏在麵具後掩飾自己。
贏家不害怕獨立思考和運用自身的知識。他們既懂得辨別事實與想法，又不會裝做通曉一切。他們傾聽他人的意見，衡量他人的言論，最後得出自己的判斷。盡管贏家懂得尊重和敬佩他人，卻不會徹底為他人所限製、摧垮、束縛或嚇倒。
贏家不會裝可憐，騙取同情；也不會怨天尤人，為自己開脫。事實上，他們肩負起了生活中自己應盡的責任，別人虛張聲勢的權威不會左右他們。贏家主宰著自己的命運，對此他們深信不疑。
Winners do not dedicate their lives to a concept of what they imagine they should be；rather，they are themselves and as such do not use their energy putting on a performance，maintaining pretense，and manipulating others.They are aware that there is a difference between being loving and acting loving，between being stupid and acting stupid，between being knowledgeable and acting knowledgeable.Winners do not need to hide behind a mask.
Winners are not afraid to do their own thinking and to use their own knowledge.They can separate facts from opinion and don’t pretend to have all the answers.They listen to others，evaluate what they say，but come to their own conclusions.Although winners can admire and respect other people，they are not totally defined，demolished，bound，or awed by them.Winners do not play“helpless”，nor do they play the blaming game.Instead，they assume responsibility for their own lives.They do not give others a false authority over them.Winners are their own bosses and know it.